How a “Benefit Dinner” helped and healed wounded souls.

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July 18, 2015, Baguio City – The rain never stopped for almost three weeks in the City of Pines which made the Baguio people hibernate in their homes.  Despite the unbelievable downpour of water, big hearted individuals were not fazed to grace the once-a-year Benefit Dinner organized by Helping Hands, Healing Hearts Ministries Philippines Inc. (HHHMPI) last July 18, 2015 from  5pm to 12 midnight at CAP – John Hay Convention Center.

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HHHMPI is a non-stock, non-profit organization that rescues sick and dying Filipino children and gives them hope and practical help.  They also maintain homes for orphans and abandoned children in Olongapo City and Baguio City.

The Benefit Dinner was spearheaded by its Executive Director Claire G. Henderson, an Irish national whose life calling is to care for the sick and be a bridge for orphans and abandoned children to find their “forever families”.

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Claire Henderson with children from Helping Hands Healing Hearts Children’s Recovery Unit – Olongapo City.

To be honest, I was expecting the dinner to be just the usual where people socialize and meet new friends but it’s really different if the Lord’s hand is at work.  Claire warmed the night by introducing Helping Hands, Healing Hearts Ministries Philippines Inc., through a video that touched the hearts of the audience.

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Claire G. Henderson’s warming welcome during a cold and rainy night.

You can’t blame the audience from crying after watching the video as it celebrated God’s goodness through the lives of HHHMPI volunteers and spoke to the heart for us to reach out to the sick, the orphans and the abandoned children.

After the powerful and heart striking introduction, we were cheered by Claire’s announcement that food is served and that we will be entertained by performances from the HHHMPI children while enjoying our sumptuous dinner.

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More than 220 individuals braved the rain to attend this momentous evening for the benefit of Helping Hands Healing Hearts children.
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The big kids from Helping Hands, Healing Hearts performing at the Benefit Dinner.

Thanks to Mario’s, Le Chef, Chaya, Chef’s Home, Canto and Forest House for coming up with a feast-like dinner for the 220 people who supported the night.  This should give you another reason to visit these restaurants, I provided you their links to make it easy for you to discover them.

As the rain unstoppably poured, the blessings likewise overflowed through raffles. Some donors donated hotel accommodations, their personal stuff with sentimental value and some memorabilia for auctioning, 100% of the proceeds went to HHHMPI.  It was an overwhelming night.

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I was praying for my raffle ticket to be called for this 50 inch TV but the Lord said I have to make do with our 24 inch TV set. Well. 🙂
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Hotel accommodations, personal stuff with sentimental value and some memorabilia were out for auctioning.

My wife and I went home encouraged and at the same time burdened for the Filipino people. The “Benefit Dinner” affected us so much in a way that we were challenged to continue with our advocacies in order to be of help in whatever way we can.

Claire, Abbey, Dex and Gary during the Benefit Dinner.
Claire, Abbey, Dex and Gary during the Benefit Dinner.

On behalf of the Filipino people, we extend our gratitude and declare blessings and provisions to Helping Hands Healing Hearts Ministries Philippines, Inc.  We are grateful that you opened your hearts to help the needy and allowed yourselves to be an instrument to heal the wounded souls.

No. 1 TIP for JOB SEEKERS

During my stint as an Employer-Employee Relations Officer, I have interviewed a lot of job applicants who don’t really know what they want in life.  Their answer to the question “why are you applying for this job” is – “because I need it to support myself, I badly need a job”.  If you have answered that question in that way, we already see that as a RED FLAG.

The No. 1 tip I can give you when you go job hunting is to look into your heart first and find that PASSION that drives you.  What do you love doing?

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If you are able to answer that question sincerely, then go – chase that dream and everything will follow.

 

WHY YOU SHOULD NOT SHARE YOUR RICHES TO PEOPLE.

(grabbed from comments yard.com)
(grabbed from comments yard.com)

Everyday we encounter people who have lost their love for life. You can hear them say “I am good for nothing” or “I just don’t know what my real purpose in life is”.

Haven’t you realized that it is not actually an accident that these people are venting their frustrations to us. If you are that type of person whom people just want to sit with and talk to, you can use this opportunity to build these people and make them realize that life is worth living.

In the book that I am currently reading, I found this powerful line – The greatest good we can do for others is not to share our riches with them, but reveal their riches to them.

All of us have hidden potentials, if we can’t find it, we just need a “potential hunter” to help us discover it and make us shine. You can be that “potential hunter” that your friend needs today!

Don’t forget to remind your friend what the bible says: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. – Philippians 4:13

 

SAVE TIME, PLAN YOUR DAY AHEAD.

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Direction literally creates time. – Zig Ziglar (Photo belongs to http://www.dexterdiwas.com)

Most of the time, I end the day frustrated because I was not able to accomplish much.  Then I realized that one of the reasons why we end up being unproductive is that we go to work without planning our day.  Many experts and successful people have always been sharing that one of their secrets to being efficient is to have a “to do list” every single day in order to save time.

It doesn’t take much to find the high road to success, but to reach it you need an agenda for the present.  You need directions for today.  You need a purpose. Listen to the advice the president of Lincoln University gave to a group of incoming freshmen:  “Your life can’t go according to plan if you have no plan!” – Zig Ziglar

True indeed.  Having direction, purpose or agenda for the day will literally save us much time. So write down what you have to do today and accomplish them with delight and glee!

Remember:  The steps of good men are directed by the Lord.  He delights in each step they take. – Psalm 37:23.

SO, YOU THINK YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL OR HANDSOME?

Start the day by affirming and appreciating something about your spouse, child, neighbor, work mate or just a random person whom you think need some confidence boosting. A dose of affirmation and appreciation goes a long way and all the more if it comes from a person you love.

So, instead of destructively criticizing? Affirm and Appreciate and make the world a better place.

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Grabbed from bit rebels.com

Remember: As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might. – Marian Anderson.

So if my wife didn’t wake up early to affirm and appreciate me, I remind myself this:

Psalm 139:13-14: For you formed my inward parts;
 you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. 
Wonderful are your works;
 my soul knows it very well.

So you beautiful and handsome people, get out there and show what the Lord has done and is preparing to do for you.  Great life ahead!

 

 

BEST is better than GOOD.

image grabbed from http://cornerstoneofworship.blogspot.com/2013/03/good-vs-best.html
image grabbed from http://cornerstoneofworship.blogspot.com/2013/03/good-vs-best.html

Most of the time, we are tempted to say YES to every opportunity that comes our way.  We reason by saying, “I can’t say pass on this, this might be the break that I have been waiting for.”  However, it is already too late when we realize that we’ve said YES to many good things and end up getting stressed and burned out.  Moral of the story? Not every open door is for us. We need to pause and pray until we have that peace in our hearts that really says “YES” to this.

I read one saying that says “I’ve got to say “NO” to the good so I can say “YES” to the best.

“We need to choose, and the choices we make will ultimately determine how successful we are in the eight crucial areas of life:  happiness, health, peace, prosperity, security, friendships, family, and hope.  It’s up to you to choose the best and pass up the good.” – Zig Ziglar.

THANK GOD IT’S MONDAY!

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Pic grabbed from amycarney.com

Monday is the most dreaded day for the working class.  But I declare – “let it not be this Monday and the Mondays to come!

If we see Mondays as our Goliath, then let us be the David that this Goliath needs.  Let us ready our sling and stone and be on our passion mode.  I like what Zig Ziglar said – The way you see yourself today will affect your performance today.

So, how do you see yourself today?  Why not say – THANK GOD IT’S MONDAY!

Remember: The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied. – Proverbs 13:4.

ProPER way to form a good habit.

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“I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward and upward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Ninety percent of things you do might just as well be turned over to me, and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly. I am easily managed, show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons I will do them automatically. I am the servant of all great people and, alas! of all failures as well. I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine, plus intelligence of a man. You can run me for profit or run me for ruin – it makes no difference to me. Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you. Who am I? I am habit.” – Author Unknown

Meriam-Webster dictionary defines habit as a usual way of behaving or something that a person does often in a regular and repeated way.

A lot of successful people reiterate the importance of forming good habits to achieve success and I could not agree more. The things that you do daily, define who you will be in the future. Let us say for instance that you make it a habit to wake up early in the morning and run several miles around the city, tendency is you will be enjoying the benefits of having a fit physique. That is a good example of a good habit. In contrast, if it is your habit to sip a glass of wine every other hour then the outcome of that habit could possibly be alcoholism.

Now we understand that our habits can make us or break us. Of course I will not waste your time reading about forming bad habits, instead, let me share to you 4 points that you can do to form good habits, I will call it the ProPER way to form a good habit.

First: Prompt.

In theater, we call someone who gives an actor the trigger or cue as the prompter. The same principle applies in forming good habits. We must first think about that particular habit that we want to acquire and prompt ourselves to start doing it. For example, if we want to form a good habit of waking up early every morning, our prompt could be an alarm. So the first thing that we need to do is to remind ourselves to set an alarm in the evening so that we can wake up early the next day.

Second: Perform.

After setting a prompt, we should make sure to do the very thing that we prompted ourselves to do. This is the perform part. So if we base it in the above example, if we set an alarm for us to wake up early in the morning then we should perform by immediately getting out of bed.

Third: Enjoy.

After successfully performing what you prompted yourself to do then it is time for you to enjoy its benefits which leads to having a sense of fulfillment.

Fourth: Repeat.

Repeat this over again until it becomes a habit. Time will come when you will no longer have to prompt yourself to perform because it has already become part of your system.

Apply the above principle every time you want to start a good habit and see how your life will change.

Challenge yourself now and follow the ProPER way to form good habits!

Habits aristotle

LEGAL ADVOCACY: WHEN THE WORLD DECIDED TO SHUT DOWN ON ME

I was migrating the articles from my previous website to this website and saw this article that was published in the Baguio Midland Courier sometime last year.  Browse on and enjoy the read!

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After passing the Bar, a lot of my friends asked me how will I reconcile my being a Christian with my being a lawyer.  Every time I remember that question, I know they were pertaining to a scenario where lawyers defend accused individuals even if they know their guilt.

     Long before I entered the legal profession, I already knew that the public perceives lawyering as a profession for overconfident-amibitious-egocentric animals who will go straight to hell, someone who will readily manufacture evidence and commit perjury for the sake of winning a case.

     Not all lawyers practice their profession in that manner.  Most of us wake up every single day and strive with the help of the Almighty to prove that notion wrong.

     I started my practice defending a person accused for committing acts of lasciviousness.  It was my first day in court and as a young lawyer hungry for practice I gladly said “Yes, your honor” when appointed as de oficio counsel, an appointment dreaded by many and embraced by public servants like me (wink, wink).  There is a truth to that but kidding aside, I got hold of the accused’s records and interviewed him.  He started his story by saying he was drunk and the next thing he knew, he was in prison.  I doubted him.  I was thinking, “Here I am left with no choice but to defend a person whose sentiments I do not believe and whom I think probably did it.”

     I wanted to manifest to the judge that I made a mistake of volunteering to handle the case but I realized that giving up on my first case is not part of the grand plan to be known in the art of advocacy.  I composed myself, took a deep dramatic breath, I almost closed my eyes but I did not, and reminded my very being that, by law, I have all the legal reasons to help this person because an accused have constitutional rights too.  My role now is to see to it that due process will be afforded him.  So I smiled my way before the bench as I was able to convince myself to assist him.

     Everything went well until I saw the complainant and remembered all the young girls and women who had gone and are going through the same ordeal.  I saw the complainant staring at the accused with piercing looks.  Suddenly, she turned her eyes on me as if asking, “Why did you volunteer to help a person like him?” I looked away from her and tried to formulate an answer in case my imagination comes to life, but my emotion overpowered me.  I started hating and condemning the accused for not having a taint of remorse.

     But I caught myself before I could even verbalize it.  I looked at the accused and suddenly was reminded by a preaching in church that said, “Jesus hates the sin but loves the sinner.” From that point, I felt like a bucket filled with ice water was thrown at me.  I then began to separate the accused from what he did, condemned the act and not the doer, and vowed to make sure that his rights will not be trampled on by handling the case objectively.  That lesson was etched in my heart and I use it to remind me every time the judge appoints me as counsel de oficio.

     Understanding that an accused has rights makes me a lawyer.  Knowing they have hearts and emotions bring out the Christian in me.  That is how I reconcile being a Christian and a lawyer.

     I remember telling a colleague that one of the reasons that makes it easy for my conscience to assist these individuals, especially when you see sincere remorse in them, is the idea that at this lowest point in their lives, they need someone who will listen to them, provide them words of encouragement, make them realize it is not the end, and that change can still happen.

     Putting myself in their shoes, I would gladly welcome an understanding counsel who would listen to my story when the world has decided to shut down on me.

 Note:

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The above story actually happened sometime in the year 2012.  Article was written sometime 2014 and was published in the Baguio Midland Courier on April 13, 2014.  Currently, I am now gladly connected with the Public Attorney’s Office which gives an everyday opportunity to defend and help reform people like the one in my story.

Thanks for reading! 

That BAGUIO CITY WEDDING you've been dreaming about?  IT'S REAL! VISIT SOULSCENT FLORAL ARTISTRY and make it happen. NOW!
That BAGUIO CITY WEDDING you’ve been dreaming about? IT’S REAL! VISIT SOULSCENT FLORAL ARTISTRY and make it happen. NOW!

 

ProPER way to form a good habit.

good habits“I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward and upward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Ninety percent of things you do might just as well be turned over to me, and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly. I am easily managed, show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons I will do them automatically. I am the servant of all great people and, alas! of all failures as well. I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine, plus intelligence of a man. You can run me for profit or run me for ruin – it makes no difference to me. Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you. Who am I? I am habit.” – Author Unknown

Meriam-Webster dictionary defines habit as a usual way of behaving or something that a person does often in a regular and repeated way.

A lot of successful people reiterate the importance of forming good habits to achieve success and I could not agree more. The things that you do daily, define who you will be in the future. Let us say for instance that you make it a habit to wake up early in the morning and run several miles around the city, tendency is you will be enjoying the benefits of having a fit physique. That is a good example of a good habit. In contrast, if it is your habit to sip a glass of wine every other hour then the outcome of that habit could possibly be alcoholism.

Now we understand that our habits can make us or break us. Of course I will not waste your time reading about forming bad habits, instead, let me share to you 4 points that you can do to form good habits, I will call it the ProPER way to form a good habit.

First: Prompt.

In theater, we call someone who gives an actor the trigger or cue as the prompter. The same principle applies in forming good habits. We must first think about that particular habit that we want to acquire and prompt ourselves to start doing it. For example, if we want to form a good habit of waking up early every morning, our prompt could be an alarm. So the first thing that we need to do is to remind ourselves to set an alarm in the evening so that we can wake up early the next day.

Second: Perform.

After setting a prompt, we should make sure to do the very thing that we prompted ourselves to do. This is the perform part. So if we base it in the above example, if we set an alarm for us to wake up early in the morning then we should perform by immediately getting out of bed.

Third: Enjoy.

After successfully performing what you prompted yourself to do then it is time for you to enjoy its benefits which leads to having a sense of fulfillment.

Fourth: Repeat.

Repeat this over again until it becomes a habit. Time will come when you will no longer have to prompt yourself to perform because it has already become part of your system.

Apply the above principle every time you want to start a good habit and see how your life will change.

Challenge yourself now and follow the ProPER way to form good habits!

Habits aristotleAuthor: Dexter D. Diwas